When was the last time you had a sense that something important needed to change in your life, and then you hit a point where you made up your mind and decided to do it? If you stop and think about it, I bet every important change you’ve ever made began when you chose to initiate it.*

How many times have you been told you should have one purpose in life, which will give you meaning, as if all of life were meant to be one accomplishment? Or you should find one big passion to work on your entire life? Or one big audacious lifelong dream to work toward? 

Initiating a change in your work, your relationship, or your lifestyle can initiate change in that area of your life, but rarely do these types of changes occur in complete isolation from the others (i.e., the change in my relationship + the change in my work = a drastic change in my lifestyle).

In the early stages of finding your Nxt, it’s important to define what you want your Nxt to do for you. At this point in the process, you probably won’t be able to define the specifics of how you’ll do it, but you can use your mind’s eye to visualize the big picture of how your dream can play out in your future.

How often do you think you settle for things in your life that might not be what you really want, but you tell yourself, it’s ok, it’s good enough?

You don’t even know when you’re doing it. You think you’re open to dealing with an issue, solving a problem or Finding Your Nxt. And yet, you can come up with all kinds of reasons why you can’t move forward.

Since when did change become something to avoid? Changing your job. Changing your relationship. Changing where you live? Even changing your hairstyle is often met with a collective NOOOOOOOO! Don’t change! Stay just the way you are!

How many times have you stopped yourself from moving beyond what is no longer working for you because you had no idea what the future would look like…and that fear of the unknown was worse than staying where you were?

The fear of failure is based on the premise that if you promise to do something, and for whatever reason, that promise doesn’t come to fruition, you have failed. It doesn’t matter if it was your fault or the fault of others. The failure is yours if you made the promise and couldn’t follow through on it.