“I Don’t Want to Do This Without You” — Why More Couples Are Coming to The Immersion

When I first started offering The Immersion, most people came on their own. They were the ones navigating a transition—something in their work life wasn’t working anymore, or they were entering retirement (and hating the word), or they just knew it was time for something different. So they came out to the ranch, took a few days to step away from everything, and we did the work.

We talked through how they were living and working. We looked at what mattered and what didn’t. We pulled apart the pieces of their life and found clarity in the places they hadn’t thought to look.

And then—almost without fail—something would come up toward the end of our time together:

“I don’t know how to explain this to my partner.”
“How do I bring them into something they weren’t here for?”
“I don’t want to lose this clarity the minute I walk back into my regular life.”

They weren’t wrong to worry.

Because when one person steps away and gains perspective, it can be hard to go back and try to recap it like a meeting summary. You can’t hand someone a set of bullet points and expect them to feel what you felt. You experienced it. They didn’t. It requires a conversation that relays both the process and the experience of getting to that clarity. 

That’s why couples are now coming to The Immersion together. And I’m seeing something that’s worth talking about.

When both people do the work, something changes

The Immersion is not couples therapy—that’s not my background, and it’s not my approach.

Instead, what I offer is time, space, and structure to help people take an honest look at how they’re living. We explore work, relationships, and lifestyle in a clear, integrated way. Each person gets their own time with me, and their own answers. We don’t collapse two people into one experience.

But we do bring what’s discovered into a shared space. We’re not trying to solve problems or meet in the middle just for the sake of compromise. We’re giving each person the language to say:

 “This is what I need in the Nxt phase of my work.”
“This is what I want in the way we live.”
“This is what helps me feel connected in our relationship.”

When both people are speaking from that kind of clarity, the direction forward becomes a whole lot easier to see.

It’s not about fixing anything

The couples I’ve worked with lately haven’t come to “work on the relationship.” They’ve come because they’re building a life together—and one person said, “I don’t want to figure out what’s Nxt without you.”

That’s because your work life doesn’t exist in one corner, and your relationship in another, and your lifestyle in some neat little third box. They affect one another constantly.

If you start working less, or from home, or you’re suddenly traveling a lot more… your partner is impacted. If one of you wants to slow down and the other is energized by a new business idea, you both feel that. If you’ve both been defaulting to what’s familiar for years, and you finally pause long enough to ask what’s actually working, you may discover that some things have been coasting on autopilot for far too long.

Coming to The Immersion together doesn’t mean everything has to change. It means you’re taking the time to look at what’s working—and what’s not—and to make decisions with the full picture in view.

Alignment makes things clearer

One of the biggest benefits I see when couples do this work side by side is the kind of alignment that’s hard to access in the middle of daily life. The dog needs to be fed, the emails keep coming in, the schedule never lets up. And most of us don’t carve out time for long, meaningful conversations about where we’re headed and whether it still fits.

When you step away together, you’re reconnecting with what matters—and saying it out loud. That creates shared language. It gives you something to come back to later when decisions get harder or things feel off. You both know where the other person is coming from, because you were there for the moment they figured it out.

The feedback I keep hearing

At the beginning of every year, I check in with past clients. I ask them how they’re doing, what’s stayed with them, what they’re still using from our time together. And this year, the responses from couples stood out.

There was a sense of steadiness in the way they described their decisions. The words we had worked on together were still guiding their choices—not just individually, but within their partnership. One client told me the three values he clarified during his Immersion with his wife still sit at the top of their fridge. They use them to talk through everything from business decisions to family plans.

That’s the kind of integration most people don’t even think to hope for. But it’s possible! And I’ve seen it happen again and again.

It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together

I’ve worked with couples who are newly married, and ones who have been together for thirty years. The thing that makes the biggest difference isn’t how long they’ve been a couple. It’s whether they’re both willing to be honest, to step outside of default mode, and to look at what’s working and what could be better.

Oh, and to say (out loud!), “Let’s make this next part something we’re both excited about.”

If you’ve been feeling the pull to reevaluate how you’re living and working—and you don’t want to leave your partner out of it—this might be the exact time to come to The Immersion together.

The future is easier to navigate when you’ve both had a say in what it looks like.

Schedule your consultation with me here.